I've been reading lots of blogs lately, and it seems that all bloggers have a required cadre of BFFs. Who take pictures for them, or make things for them. And do all manner of BFF type things. I won't bother linking. You KNOW who I'm talking about. EVERYONE.
Except me.
I've been feeling very disconnected from life this year. I do have friends. I have my Birthday Girls Club. And neighborhood friends. And high school friends. And other assorted friends. But we are busy. Or I am busy. I feel disconnected. (I am connected to my online friends, but you can't just get all gussied up and go for a girls night with them. Or watch each others kids or swap casseroles or make Christmas gifts together. In some ways online friends are better, but there are some things you just can't do.)
So why don't I have that cadre of BFFs? What's wrong with me?
Is it because I grew up in a houseful of boys and it took me a long time to even figure out the female species? Is it because I'm too busy with my kids? Is it because I am introverted? Is it because I tend to keep my head down, focused on the tasks at hand, and rarely look up at the forest around me. (Is it because I use lame analogies?)
It took a few days of pondering about poor little me until I came upon a thought.
Perhaps it's ME. Maybe, to be a BFF in real life, you have to pick up the phone. Or throw a party. Or organize a ladies night.
Instead of waiting for my BFFs to come to me, maybe I should be INVITING them in.
So I promptly figured out how to set up an Evite and drew up a list of ladies whose company I enjoy and who all have something in common with each other and I invited them over for a Ladies Night.
And except for one, THEY ARE ALL COMING.
My cadre of BFFs is about to be born!
Except, I am a little sensitive about the state of my house. Which on a good day, is abysmal. But I had nearly 4 weeks to decrapify, straighten, clean and organize. (And, ok, yes, a bit of redecorating involving a trip to the upholstery shop and new window blinds. Perfect, right? I purchased paint and ordered blinds and planned trips to the craft shop and stalked Etsy.)
And then... Laundry Dad decided to spend his birthday knocking down walls in the basement. Which involved relocating all of the CRAP from every corner and closet of the basement into... wait for it... THE LIVING ROOM.
And then there was the whole Snowmaggedon thing... where my kids and I (and various and sundry of their high spirted friends) have been trapped in this house for THIRTEEN DAYS.
Pause for a moment to try and imagine the mess. Just imagine it.
My ladies night is in less than 2 weeks. I have little hope of even repairing the current damage, much less taking on new projects like upholstery and painting.
So my current plan is to dim the lights, get some lovely scented candles, LOTS AND LOTS OF WINE and some tasty treats. (And perhaps a
My BFFs are waiting.
Awesome!
ReplyDeleteI have the same issues. Plenty of online friends, no real life BFFs. I'm thinking it's because I just don't have time for grown-up stuff and girls nights out and gussiness. Or just my lame analogies.
If I lived closer I would crash your party. :)
We had all these great parent/child playdates in our nieghborhood during the past two weeks and every time I was over at someone else's house--no matter how messy it was--I was always thinking it was so much nicer/less messy than MY house. Ends up we were ALL thinking that! (Not that my house was the messiest but that ever other one was nicer/less messy than our own.) So, I don't think you have anything to worry about. And if they do look around too closely just get them drunk :) Have fun!
ReplyDeleteGood for you, Sue! Someone always needs to be the organizer when it comes to big groups, that's for sure. I hope you all have a blast! (And I make it a rule to only befriend moms who have imperfect children and non-spotless houses... just makes it a whole lot easier when they're exposed to my crew!) :)
ReplyDeleteOh good for you! I don't have any real life BFF's. I have friends but not of the bestie variety. Still searching!
ReplyDeleteHope you have an awesome time. Wish I was coming too.
See, really the great thing about BFFs is that they don't hold it against you if your dorm room (ahem, living room) is a mess. (Or if you have invited them over while you're in your bathrobe. Or if the only things you can offer for snacks are BBQ chips and chocolate truffles. Or...)
ReplyDeleteThere is really something to be said for that!
Sounds like a ton of fun!!! :-)
ReplyDeleteYour friends won't care about the state of your house.
ReplyDeleteAnd if they do? They're not the right friends. Call me. I'm itching to see our blogger group again -- I'm just having trouble getting around to organizing something.
Mwah!